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Old 06-07-2008, 10:23 PM
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hi. my name is candice and i'm 21 years old. my boyfriend phil is deployed to iraq. he left on march 10th for a 15 month deployment. this is really hard for me and none of my friends seem to understand how i feel. i just would really like to talk to people who know what im goin through and get a little support. thanks!!!
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Old 06-08-2008, 04:59 AM
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hi. my name is candice and i'm 21 years old. my boyfriend phil is deployed to iraq. he left on march 10th for a 15 month deployment. this is really hard for me and none of my friends seem to understand how i feel. i just would really like to talk to people who know what im goin through and get a little support. thanks!!!

Welcome to the site...theres plenty of army wifes on here....they are in the same boat...try talking to Kmullins or Fireball...theyll give their surport im sure

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Old 06-08-2008, 05:25 AM
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hi. my name is ******* and i'm 21 years old. my boyfriend phil is deployed to iraq. he left on march 10th for a 15 month deployment. this is really hard for me and none of my friends seem to understand how i feel. i just would really like to talk to people who know what im goin through and get a little support. thanks!!!
Welcome armywifey, hope you enjoy our crazy debates and hope to see your contris soon!!...

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Old 06-08-2008, 10:18 AM
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It is tough. My son is there now also. My worry is almost over, he will be back soon. There are lots of people on this site who know what you are going through. Stick close, it will be OK.
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Old 06-08-2008, 11:19 AM
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Armywifey,

My son was deployed to Iraq 4 times & Aghanistan once. I know just what you're going through.

Thankfully he's off of active duty & in a reserve unit with a guarantee not to be deployed for 2 years.
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Old 06-08-2008, 01:05 PM
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hey and welcome I'm new here but if i can do ne thing or you just need to talk pm me!
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Old 06-08-2008, 01:17 PM
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Armywifey,

My son was deployed to Iraq 4 times & Aghanistan once. I know just what you're going through.

Thankfully he's off of active duty & in a reserve unit with a guarantee not to be deployed for 2 years.

Youve been there MSG Glenn....did that make it easier when your son was deployed???
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Old 06-08-2008, 06:57 PM
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this is a wonderful place for support, and a little fun. almost everyone here is great. if you have questions just ask, you will get several answers. take some and leave others. look up your local FRG (family readyness group) for your boyfriends unit. they are going to be yoru sister while your loved one is away. write plenty of letters and expect nothing in return. if you are lucky like i have gotten with my husbnads deployment you can hear from him everyday. i can actualy call my husband. but there are many others that just have to sit and wait, and may only get a call every once in a while. sent lots of care packages. it makes there day to hear from you. its going to be tough, i wont lie to you about that, but its worth it in the end
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hi. my name is candice and i'm 21 years old. my boyfriend phil is deployed to iraq. he left on march 10th for a 15 month deployment. this is really hard for me and none of my friends seem to understand how i feel. i just would really like to talk to people who know what im goin through and get a little support. thanks!!!
Welcome! K named some great things. There is a lot of support out there... but I guess what I have found is that most women want others to give them the happiness they had while their hubby was home. No one can do that.

During any relationship there comes a point when you both realize that one or the other doesn't determine your personal happiness -- that your spouse just enhances it. Only you can be as happy as you want to be. Happiness is a choice... making the best of a hard/tough situation can be lonely and disappointing, but there are resources as K mentioned to ease those times or provide ways to cope during this time of transition and distanced relationship building.

My biggest suggestion is to surround yourself by "happy" people... too often - recently, I have seen SOOOO many women who click together. Their basis of friendship is founded on the bitterness they have towards the army making their spouse deploy three times in 5 years... or anger with their spouse... friendships aren't meaningful when they have more negative influences than positive. Sure vent, but no one seems to talk about how they cope - and that is what you want. Friends that talk about coping... not friends that commiserate in misery, loneliness, etc... because it will drag you down and prevent you from the wonderful growth opportunities that we as wives have while our hubbies are deployed.

Keep on the up and up... grab his sweatshirt... wear a pair of his socks... whatever you need to do - but smile and think about all the cool things you can do for him while apart. BE CREATIVE.

Research EVERYTHING and you will find some amazing ways to get involved and be surrounded by really supportive military folk.

Keep in touch and hope you find some things on here helpful, informative and most of all - may some put a smile on your face.
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Old 06-09-2008, 04:02 AM
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This is great...fine surrport for army families...good job guys...this is the sort of site my family should have found when i was away....

you should be proud of yourselves

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