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Old 02-02-2009, 12:50 AM
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Default Any moms w/sons at Ft.Jackson?

Hi I'm new to this forum. My son left for Basic on Jan. 6th. so that makes 4 weeks into basic this Tuesday and it seems like 4 months on my end of things Or maybe it's just bad today because we didn't get a phone call? We have heard from him for the last 3 Sundays but not today and I sooooo count on that phone call. I spent the evening going from being sad to worried lol. Anyone else going thru this?

So far his one letter and calls have been upbeat about everything but the weather. It's been pretty cold there, much different from Texas. Seems someone stole his beanie the first week so his head is cold all the time (grin). But the last call he sounded very, very, tired and maybe a bit homesick? I expected that to happen at some point but it was hard to hear.

I'd love some input here though . . . in many places on the army site, the Ft.Jackson website, where it talks about Basic Training and what they go thru, it says . . . "we encourage the family to send letters and photos" . . . BUT . . . his drill srgt told everyone they would be doing 50 pushups and situps for every letter or package they received! Long story short . . . my son had asked that I send him his cell phone because the phones they use there have awful connections. I verified with his recruiter that this was ok to send. Last call he said he had signed for the package 3 days priror and was still doing pushups and situps every day because of the package! Sooooooo now even though I'd love to send him a letter with a funny photo .......... I am extremely hesitant to do so!!! I mean why on earth would I want to be the cause of him having to do more situps and pushups????

Has anyone else been thru this? Am I the only one not sending anything for fear I will cause him trouble? LOL.

Anyway . . . we are very proud of him and his choice to join the army but just having a hard time adjusting to not being able to talk with him and knowing how or if we can communicate with him on any level.

Thanks in advance to anyone who cares to reply.

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Old 02-02-2009, 05:48 AM
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When I was involved in Recruit Training, not as a Drill SGT but as an Instructor the recruits would have to do PUs for each letter they received but given the option of doing them or not receiving mail push-ups won every time. Don't worry - if he doesn't receive any letters there still will be plenty of opportunities of him being blessed with push-ups. The DS will find a reason.

I'd be careful with pictures, though. And instead of sending a short note everyday it's probably better to send a few in one envelope.

Push-ups shouldn't be considered as a punishment but rather as a method for strengthening the soldier. 50 isn't much. Rangers had to do 80 & if your son wants to get into anything like that he'll appreciate the PT. Just to pass the APFT he needs to do 60 if he's in the 17-21 age group, 71 to score 100% on the push-up part of the test.
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Old 02-02-2009, 12:26 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Was thinking that maybe we would all write but send in one envelope lol. He's a long time wrestler so he is used to the physical stuff. Used to have contests with his recruiter to see who could do more pushups. Think last time they hit 105? At first he was like . . . it's not bad I've had coaches yell at me more and worked out harder for meets but I think maybe this last week he might be hitting that point of break down they all go thru? He's a tuff guy so I'm sure he will be fine. I think for myself, being a mom and us having a close relationship, the lack of communication is hardest on me (grin).

Having this forum and someplace to "whine" last night was a real help! I'm really very proud of his choice and am looking forward to seeing how this will change him when it's all over. Looking forward to seeing him at graduation!

Thanks for your reply!
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Old 02-13-2009, 12:39 PM
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My husband is at Ft. Jackson in 2-60th. He said that it is now 20 push up for each letter. Sometimes we send pictures in the letters. My husband said that things are rough, but recent letters suggested that things are getting better. Organized and soldiers are following directions.
Hang in there only 5 more weeks left and then they won't be so restricted from conversation with family. Sometimes they get phones on Sundays and sometimes not. I am hoping for a call this weekend too.
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Old 02-13-2009, 02:38 PM
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mshanson,

If he's a wrestler than he'll have no problem. I wrestled. I even coached wrestling at my son's grade school & later assisted at his H.S. I also coach Judo, another sport similar to wrestling in some respects.

My son was an Army Ranger & left active duty a few months ago.

I think anyone in BCT would rather do push-ups than not get mail.
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Old 02-14-2009, 10:10 AM
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I know what you are going through. My son went through basic 2 years ago. It was hard to break those lines of communication. When you are used to them checking in all the time and being able to pick up the phone or text and find out where they are it's tough to break the connection cold turkey. My son never complained about getting letters. He was the opposite, he begged for them. And, I got a letter almost every day, sometimes 2. He was pretty homesick in the beginning, but by the end of the 4th week or so, the letters started turning around. I saved all of them and am putting together a scrap book for him. He will appreciate it one day. They really are a testament to how much he grew as a man in those few short weeks.

I got very few phone calls while he was in basic. If he got near a phone the first call he made was to check on his daughter. Then if the line wasn't too long, I might get a quick hello. I cherish the letters more. Of course I haven't received a single letter since basic, not even when he was deployed. Emails are easier.

Hang in there it gets better.
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Old 02-18-2009, 08:46 PM
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Lightbulb I can relate...

I have a very dear boyfriend in Ft Jackson. He and I are inseperable. He is litterally my best friend. I recieved a letter atleast 5 days ago. My best friend was talking as if they were crushing his world. He went in on January 5th and It seemed like its been months. He seemed motivated at first, as well as the letters and phone calls. However, the calls ceased and I began to recieve more and more letters stating that I wasnt writing him. I consulted my brother because he went through both the Navy and NJ state Police training. He explained that sometimes they hold the mail for more than a week. Depending upon which tasks are taking place that day. Once he graduated, he started to recieve more and more old mail. He explained that everyday he wanted to quit or asked himself what he was doing there. By the time graduation rolled around he had pushed himself day by day to move forward. And before he knew it it was over. I feel like while they are breaking the service men, they are getting the family prepared as well...they are breaking the need to be co dependent. It may sound wierd but it works. We are expected to be strong, and supportive at the same time. I would think there should be a training for immediate family to the soldiers that they hold so high. Everyone admits its hard, however, it is worth the sacrifice no matter what the circumstances are. Please be strong. And know that your son has found a coping mechanism that works for him. He is just venting to you becuase there is no one he can relate to or let his guard down with...just find inspiration in yourself to understand what is happening and how it may change your life and his. Look to prayer and be a constant reminder of hope to your son. You will be in my prayers as I suffer too...but these are the things that work for me.
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Old 02-18-2009, 10:47 PM
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one thing i've always heard the military say about army families is that they also 'serve' in the army. i know it's tough to hear someone you love sound so discouraged and sad but that's what basic training is all about unfortunately. the army is trying to break them of being a civilian. you sent them a boy, they'll send back a soldier!
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Old 02-18-2009, 11:50 PM
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Well we got a call this past Monday . . . seems someone used the phone without permission and so they lost phone time for two weeks lol. He's in C Company by the way. Was good to hear that he was no longer sick with the flu and hopefully the weather will begin to get better? He just wasn't used to the cold (grin). He now sounds like he is just ready for it to be over so he can move on to AIT training.

We did finally get the Graduation info . . . bummer it didn't arrive one week sooner before everything went up due to Spring Break lol. But we made our final arrangements today and did get a hotel that is very near the base. Oh and I watched a Graduation ceremoney online yesterday that was interesting.

Just FYI . . . most hotels will either not charge you till you arrive or will refund the full amount up to about 24 or 48 hrs prior to first nights stay. Also, if you purchase the airfare insurance, its easy to get dates changed or even fee refunded if needed. I would think it's pretty safe to say that they will graduate on time from what I've heard.

I did try checking the units webpage but it doesnt look like they spend much time updating it lol. One spot supposedly has photos but there are none and the grad info is still showing 2008 info.

I'm soooo excited to see my son as is his brother . . who btw will leave in May/June for his Basic. At least now I will have a better idea of how it all goes.
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Old 02-19-2009, 12:48 PM
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Hello sad-mom. I just went threw this myself. My son started boot camp at Fort Knox 9-11-09, boot camp is hard for moms we received 4 phone calls in the 9 weeks he was in. We were lucky to get two minutes each call. But enough for him to say he loved us and everything was alright. Boot camp is designed to Build Their Soldier, they are busy from sunrise to past sunset. Hang in there. Your son will be ok and he can only call when they allow him too. Before you know it you will be seeing your son at graduation and I felt extremely honored to watch my son graduation! They work VERY hard for that day, and they look forward to the parents day, dont miss that! What a difference in your child! Hang in there! Enjoy your graduation day!
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