hi my name is jenny.. you need to go to the military and find out what his rank and everything is.. they will tell you hisrank his pay and everything.. they will also help you get the money yo are supposed to have ... any help you need asa military wife you can get from any military post.. just go to one and ask.. do you have a military identification card? that is all you need to get the help you need hon... good luck and love to you.. we wives must stick together.